August 5, 2022

In my years of working with married couples, I’ve discovered that many marital problems can be traced to issues, struggles and frustrations related to sex. Most couples face the frustration of having one spouse with a consistently stronger sex drive than the other, which often leads to a question: How often should a married couple have sex? With the busyness and stress of life, recent studies suggest that married couples are having less sex than ever. A recent article by USA... Read more

August 5, 2022

Ashley and I love the questions we receive from our readers, viewers, and Naked Marriage Podcast listeners. Many of those questions become the inspiration for new podcast episodes, videos, and blog articles like this one. We’ve recently heard several questions related to whether or not it’s a sin to “lust” over your spouse. To give a little bit of context, let’s first define “lust” because it’s kind of a term that’s become “Christianese,” meaning an insider language used in church... Read more

May 16, 2018

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February 28, 2018

My wife Ashley and I have had the privilege of doing marriage ministry for many years. In our travels and speaking and online ministry, we’re often asked “What’s your all-time favorite marriage advice?” It’s a tough question, because it’s nearly impossible to limit the best advice to one sentence. The “best” advice for a couple is usually based on their current struggles and the season of life they’re in. Below, I’ve put together a list of my all-time favorite marriage... Read more

February 22, 2018

There’s been a lot of recent discussion about how “men need respect” and “women need love.” This view has gained more attention with the popular book, “Love and Respect,” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It’s a wonderful book and I wholeheartedly recommend it, but some people have missed the point of his book (and my previous post on 7 ways a husband needs respect from his wife) by thinking that men only need respect (not love) and women only need love (not... Read more

February 12, 2018

My wife, Ashley, and I have interacted with married couples from all over the world. Many of these couples are healthy and thriving, but many others remain stuck in a perpetual state of dysfunction. Some of them have been living in the dysfunction for so long that they don’t even think anything is wrong. Ruining a marriage seems tragically “normal” these days. It’s remarkable what can start feeling “normal” if it goes on long enough! I’m not a Psychologist, so I’m... Read more

February 5, 2018

February 14 can come and go without much fanfare for the typical married couple, but don’t miss out on this opportunity to recharge your marriage! I know finding the right gift for your man on Valentine’s Day can be tough, so I’ve put together a list below to help you think of some new, man-approved gift suggestions. Don’t buy your husband flowers or chocolates. He doesn’t need more Old Spice or another tie. If you want to make his day... Read more

February 4, 2018

I’ve written some blog articles in five minutes or less, but this one has taken me almost 4o years! Seriously. I’m turning forty in October and I’ve been pondering on some mid-life reflections about what I’ve learned, what I’ve accomplished and all the times I’ve failed. I wanted to get a tattoo, a crazy hairstyle and a motorcycle for my stereotypical mid-life crisis, but Ashley wisely talked me out of it, so I decided to just write a blog post... Read more

February 1, 2018

If you are married, then EVERYTHING you do will ultimately impact your marriage in some way. Your actions (even the ones you think are positive) could have unintended consequences in your marriage. So, how do we avoid the unintended consequences? My friend Rusty George is an exceptional communicator, a Jesus-loving pastor and an all-around great guy. He wrote an article about these “unintended consequences” and marriage and it really resonated with me. With his permission, I’m posting it here. His... Read more

January 29, 2018

In marriage, SEX and HONESTY are like two wings on the same bird. You need BOTH for your marriage to soar. My wife Ashley and I recently wrote a book called The Naked Truth about Sex and Marriage which is designed to spark some very honest and intimate conversations between a husband and wife that can help them improve their sex life and all other aspects of their marriage too. We’ve found that one issue in marriage that needs greater honesty and... Read more


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