A couple of Sundays ago, it was my turn to be lector at the Episcopal church I attend. I got there early to take a look at what I would be reading and saw that the first reading, from the Hebrew scriptures, was from Proverbs 31, starting with verse 10. โA capable wife who can find?โ Shit, I thought. In a world of #MeToo, lack of respect for women who do not immediately report sexual abuse and rape, and old white guys making uninformed and untimely decisions about womenโs lives, the last thing I need to read and the congregation needs to hear is a patriarchal societyโs perspective on how to be a capable (and subservient) female spouse.
I was somewhat familiar with Proverbs 31, because I dedicated my first book over twenty years ago to my mother, using verses 26 and 28: โShe opens her mouth with wisdom . . . Her children rise up and call her blessed.โ But much of the rest of what I read two Sundays ago confirmed my initial suspicions and discomfort. The woman described in Proverbs 31 is a woman who runs her household efficiently and effectively, with skill and insight, a woman who displays considerable skills and abilities on a daily basis, while at the same time seeking the โgainโ of her husband, always doing him good and never harming him. She accomplishes all of this while her husband sits on his ass pontificating with โthe elders of the landโ in the city gates.
I was reminded of having to read Proverbs 31 in public once again a few days later when I read an article about Beth Moore in the October edition of The Atlantic.
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/10/beth-moore-bible-study/568288/
Beth Moore is a bit of a rock star in certain evangelical Christian circles; for the past twenty years or more she has packed arenas and garnered thousands of fansโmost of them evangelical womenโwith a mix of traditionally conservative Christian theology and a womanโs perspective. With regard to male and female roles, as other evangelicals, Moore considers herself a โcomplementarian,โ believing that according to the Bible men and women have distinctive roles and that men naturally should hold positions of authority and leadership over women in the home and church. According to the Atlantic article, Moore has successfully carved out a significant niche for herself in patriarchal evangelicalism because โshe spent her career carefully mapping the boundaries of acceptability for female evangelical leaders.โ
All of this began to change with the rise of Donald Trump, a rise strongly supported and often facilitated by evangelical Christians. When in October 2016 she learned of the now infamous Hollywood Access tape, then heard evangelical leaders dismissing Trumpโs comments as mere โlocker-room talk,โ Mooreโwho was sexually abused when a young childโcould not stay silent. In a series of tweets the next day, she wrote to her almost one million followers: โWake up, Sleepers, to what women have dealt with all along in environments of gross entitlement & power . . . Are we sickened? YES! Surprised? No.โ Predictably, all hell broke loose in Beth Mooreโs world. The article in the hard copy edition of the Atlantic is titled โWill Beth Moore Lose Her Flock?โ That remains to be seen.
In the context of Proverbs 31, as well as any number of texts that are often cherry-picked from Paulโs letters in the New Testament, Beth Moore had the gall to challenge traditional gender roles established and maintained by patriarchy over the centuries, often empowered by religious orthodoxy. The woman of Proverbs 31 is extraordinarily intelligent, resourceful, and commanding of respectโbut it is not until the final verse that the author suggests that we โlet her works praise her in the city gates.โ These are the very city gates that her husband has been lounging around in with other men, making rules for the community and crafting authoritative directives while women actually do the work of establishing functioning families and healthy economies.
I thought of the husband of Proverbs 31 โtaking his seat among the elders of the landโ in the city gates as I was riveted to the Christine Blasey Ford/Bret Kavanaugh hearings with millions of my fellow Americans last Thursday. The โelders of the landโ were on display throughout, alternatively petulant and stone-faced while consistently out of touch and clueless. If there was ever a time when the voice of women must be heard in our countryโs city gates, it is now. The time is long past for the experiences of women to be accepted at face value and acted upon, no matter how long ago these experiences occurred, no matter how uncomfortable they make us, and no matter how badly many would like to sweep them under the rug or respond to them with insipid moralization. May our country be blessed with a highly qualified woman as President in 2020. May there be a thorough scouring of our countryโs city gates as women of excellence replace entitled and privileged men.
At the end of her interview with the Atlantic, with reference to her life spent carving out a space for women within the patriarchal evangelical Christian church, Beth Moore says โWhat I feel a little sorry for, looking back over my shoulder, is how often I apologized for being there.โ Without a doubt, generations of men owe generations of women far more than a sincere apology. Men owe women the opportunity to do for this country what the woman of excellence in Proverbs 31 doesโthe opportunity to refashion and reimagine the city gates with excellence, wisdom, and commitment, shining the light of truth and transparency wherever they go.