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In “Deep Gidget”, Rabbi Marc Gellman mourns the passing of Sandra Dee, the 70s introduction of sex ala Linda Lovelace … and the separation of love and sex.
Maybe most important was the spiritual con job that got women to believe that their liberation was linked to their willingness to provide acrobatic and unlimited sex to a long line of men who did not really care about them, did not want to marry them, would probably dump them for a younger perkier version when they got bored and, most callously of all, would let them struggle alone and unsupported with the immense ethical conflict of killing their own fetus if they blundered into an unwanted pregnancy.
To my mind, the death of the highest possibilities of the feminist movement happened at precisely the moment when Linda Lovelace did her thing and women in the elite centers of our culture thought that this was all just a riot of fun and frolic. What they did not get is that the linking of love and sex is not just a misguided doctrine of ignorant Southern Bible thumpers but quite the contrary, a natural and basic and true protection of women from the sexual predations of men and also a true and necessary tempering and taming of the promiscuous urges of men so that they could aspire to be more than humping dogs.
Connecting love and sex is not just a religious belief endorsed by Gidget. It is a necessary cultural belief for any society seeking to inculcate the values of respect, sacrifice, bonding, self-transcendence, strong marriages and strong societies. Disconnecting love and sex, on the other hand, only builds Studio 54, MTV, STDs and a porn culture that allows teenage girls to go to school dressed like hookers. What a choice!
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